Can you Really Have it All? ( A Battle of Work and Home)

         

We all know the popular phrase ‘you can have it all’, but is it true?  Can women really have a career, kids, husband and home and be successful in each aspect? 

This is a question that I have asked a few women and I have even tried to answer myself. I have tried to have it all and I will say that while it is not impossible, I found it extremely difficult and for me I had to make some decisions. In doing so I came up with a few points in which to follow in order to keep me on track and I hope that they work for you. Of course everyone will have their own experiences and ways in which to cope these are just a few suggestions that I found to be helpful.

   

• Set goals and plan how to reach them.  “A goal is a dream with a deadline.” - Napoleon Hill.
•  If you are married, it’s essential to be on the same page with your spouse. 
• Be realistic.  Don’t over-extend yourself or you will become stressed which could result in failure.  Remember, you are human, not a robot.
• Be willing to ask and accept help.  No one can do everything by themselves. 
• Allow yourself to be open to suggestions as well.  Sometimes an outsider can see something you are too close to notice. There’s no shame in seeking advice and help.  In your home, assign chores.  If you have children involved in activities, make transportation arrangements with parents of other children in the same activities.  At work, delegate small jobs to others, allowing you more time and mental energy to focus on the bigger projects.  
• Be prepared for failures.  This is only natural.  Every person walking the earth will experience failures, trials, and rough times.  It’s how you handle the failures that determine your success.  Don’t give up or let it stop you.  Use it as a learning tool.  Brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.  Determination and perseverance is the biggest key to success.
• Prioritize and this one should have been at the top. Sisters place everything in perspective of what is most important. Remember to keep Allah and Islam first, children, husband, and home are essential and they are our first responsibility. Our role as women is to nurture and educate our children in Islam, so if we are finding that our careers are interfering with that or things are beginning to fall apart at home, we must decide what is most important and how we can salvage it. If at all. So the key is to prioritize and constantly reevaluate. 

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