Husband and Wife Make Time for Each Other and Study Islam

As Salaamu Alaikum, and good morning. We have had a wonderful week alhumdulilah so much has been accomplished. let's see we made schedules on Sunday, organized our kitchens on Monday, figured out how to save a little extra money on Tuesday, realized that we weren't close to done with learning Islam on Wednesday, Had fun making prayer rugs with out little ones on Thursday and created some lasting family traditions on Friday. Whoa what a week it has been! Now we are back at Saturday and Alhumdulilah we can take sometime to take care of mom and dad, those two very important members of our households, that's right us! So many times I say this and I have a few companions who tell me I sound like a broken record, however it is so very important that the leaders of the home are well, have high Iman, Taqwaa, patience, piety, and knowledge. How else can we raise a new generation of Muslim, a generation which fears and obeys Allah and benefits the Ummah of Rasulluallah ( Salla Allahu Alaihi wa Sallam) .

So today my suggestion is to once again focus on the president (husband, dad) and vice president (wife, mom). However we are going to try and view it from a different angle, we are Insha Allah making this a day for husband and wife to focus on increasing their Iman through increasing their ibaadat and knowledge.

Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi #3095, Narrated AbuUmamah , Transmitted by Ibn Majah

The Prophet used to say, "After fear of Allah a believer gains nothing better for himself than a good wife who obeys him if he gives her a command, pleases him if he looks at her, is true to him if he adjures her to do something, and is sincere towards him regarding her person and his property if he is absent."

Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi #3254, Narrated Anas ibn Malik  

Allah's Messenger said, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of Paradise she wishes."

[AbuNu'aym transmitted it in al-Hilyah.]

Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 3272, narrated Abu Hurayrah

When Allah's Messenger was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves." [Nasa'i and Bayhaqi, in Shu'ab al-Iman transmitted it.]

"They ask your legal instruction concerning women, say:  Allah instructs you about them..." [Qur'an 4:127]

The Prophet said:

"The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife"



Hadith - Muslim, #3469

Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger as saying: A believing man should not hate a believing woman; it he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.

"Among His signs is the fact that he has created spouses from among yourselves, so that you may find tranquillity with them; and he has put love and mercy between you. In that are signs for people who reflect." [Qur’an 30:21]

and again:

"They (wives) are garments for you, while you are garments for them." [Qur’an 2:187]

Not just today, but everyday show kindness and gentleness towards one another. Today let's try just sitting together and talking with each other, not about the problems of the children, or the bills of the house, or the issues with menus. Whatever issues we have let's leave them off and focus on each other, discuss how we can pencil in time in both our busy schedules to study something together, memorize a new surah, review a surah, study it's tafsir. Let's talk about how much we truly mean to each other. This is so important and life with all the things that busy us can keep us away from the simple things like saying "Honey I appreciate what you do for our family, you did a wonderful job today, May Allah be pleased with you. Etc.." 

Continue reciting the Qur'an because on the Day of Qiyaamah it will appear as an intercessor for the reciter.
(Muslim).

A person whose breast is devoid of the Qur'an (i.e. has not learnt anything of the Qur'an Majeed) is like a desolate house.(Tirmidhi).

Whoever recites the Qur'an well and clearly is equal in rank to the Angels who record creation's deeds. These Angels are gracious, honorable and of lofty rank. He who finds difficulty in reciting the Qur'an will obtain a double reward.
(Bukhari, Muslim).

This is something husband and wife can do together, encourage one another with this, memorize it, learn it's meaning together and implement it in your lives. You will see that this makes your marriage and your household beautiful.

Eating together in groups is Sunnah and it is a cause of Baraka (Blessing) in the meal. Abu Dawood reported in his 'Sunan' that the companions of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said to him 'O Prophet of Allah! We eat but do not get satisfied. He said: "May be you eat individually" . They replied: 'yes'. He said: "Get together for your meal and mention the name of Allah on it, Allah will bless it for your." Al-Albany said this Hadith has a good chain. Ibn Attiya said in his Tafseer (Qur'an explanation): 'This seerah (tradition of eating together) was inherited by the Arabs from Prophet Ibrahim who used never to eat alone.' Then Allah said: {……No sin on you whether you eat together or apart……. } [24:61]
This verse made it lawful for the person to eat alone even though looking for another person to share the same meal with him is a good thing. So, if the person eats alone, this does not obligatorily means that Satan will eat with him. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: "When a person enters his house and mentions the name of Allah at the time of entering it and while eating the food, Satan says (addressing himself): You have no place to spend the night and no evening meal; but when he enters without mentioning the name of Allah, the Satan says: You have found a place to spend the night, and when he does not mention the name of Allah while eating food, he (the Satan) says: You have found a place to spend the night and evening meal." [ Muslim ]

Many of us have spouses who work long hours and we eat before they are home, however if at all possible try and make a few days when you can sit together and eat and enjoy each others company and talk about the good things in your day.

These are just a few suggestions for strengthening your marriage, it is so very important. I am sure many of you have other suggestion so if you would so kindly share them with us that would be beautiful. Insha Allah "Enjoy your day"